Parents Of Addicts
When I was an out of control Heroin and Crack addict, my parents were put through an unbelievable amount of stress and financial heartache. In my condition I only thought about it when I was coming down or in an emotional spiral. It made me as close to suicide as I was capable of being. Laying on the couch sobbing and pulling my hair out, I would say “Why did I do it to them!” ”They are so nice and loving to me!” ”I don’t deserve to live!” It felt like the world was coming down on top of me. It was really quite pathetic, but after my drugs came and the escape was made, I quickly went about my dysfunctional lifestyle again.
It is not easy to describe what my parents went through either. I know that without their help towards the end things would have turned out a lot differently. I would be in prison or dead. So I want to thank them again right here. I love you guys so much! You really did save my life!
Help For Families Of Drug Addicts
Most all of the professionals in the business of giving help to parents of addicts will talk about codependency. Now in my experience this is a very fine line, but a lot of others see it as a black or white issue. I could go into depth on my views of what it means to be codependent, but I don’t want to give the wrong drug advice to parents. It is important to find out everything you can as a parent learning how to deal with drug addicts. Yes, that’s right, I said it. Your child may be a drug addict, and the first thing you’re going to have to do is admit it, and start learning how to help fix it! I think a good way of understanding what you, as parents of addicts are going through, is to relate to someone else that has been there too. I’m going to give you a review of a book that I think will definitely let you know that you are not alone and that may give you some answers about what can happen. The book is called:
This book is about a boy that had a promising life ahead of him. He was a great athlete and an intelligent young man that all of his peers seemed to like well. Unfortunately, he fell down the dangerous and horrible nightmare of Meth Addiction. The book is written by and from the perspective of his father, David Sheff, who happens to be a writer for such publications as, The New York Times, Playboy, Wired, and Rolling Stone. Sheff, being a talented writer, has really captured the brutal honesty and despair of the situation that he and his family are in. This has been said to “Bring some down to tears.” Due to his amazing writing skill and crystal clear description of the emotional roller coaster that this situation has become. He also painfully paints the picture of how he holds everything together for the younger children in the family, but also how he breaks down when he can’t hold it in any longer.
This describes many of the feelings and situations that parents of addicts are often faced with. For example: Sheff goes into his attempts in controlling his son in order to try and save his life. He also questions all of the moves and decisions that he has made and analyzes them. He expresses his anger and does not know where to direct the rage of the situation.
There are so many outcomes of addiction and where the road takes each individual and their family. The only way to deal with it is to try and learn from other that have been through it before. Addicts are going to do what addicts do to survive their nightmare, but we as parents and family members can find some answers and some sort of relief in knowing that we are not alone. There are positive outcomes to many situations, it’s just that the road there may not be as easy as we would like.
I want you to take a look at this book and learn about the struggles of others in your same situation. It will surely help give you some of the answers you need.
Beautiful Boy: A Father’s Journey Through His Son’s Addiction